Sometimes, the road that you choose to drive down can lead you to meet some incredible people. For me, this proved to be true when I was driving through small towns in Connecticut towards Delaware, and I met Darin.

I went into a small electronics boutique hoping to get a replacement power cord for my laptop and support a local small business at the same time! Darin was working behind the counter, finishing up with a customer when I walked in.

We chatted together for a few minutes and quickly determined that he didn’t have my power cord in stock and that I’d be better off at a Best Buy. We eventually got to talking about the #MoneyProTour I was on.

An Open Conversation About Job-Loss & Divorce

Darin was open and honest with me as we sat down and talked about Personal Finances and Money Decisions. “Good thing I saved when I did because people don’t save enough money – that’s for sure,” he said. “When I ended up losing my job and getting divorced, all in the same year, it was my retirement savings, investment accounts and 529 plans that I had set up for my kids that were there to save me. I needed to tap into those accounts. I hated to do it. But I’m glad I had them in the first place. If I didn’t have them, I don’t know what I would have done.”

Darin told me that he and his ex-wife never “talked” about money together when they were younger. Things were going well. He made a great salary, and his kids had a stay-at-home mom that was there for them during their early years. Everything was going fine. It wasn’t until Darin lost his job that tensions built up and climaxed with splitting up with his now ex-wife.

“She really put me into a tough position,” Darin said. They had gotten accustomed to a certain lifestyle and disagreed about how to sacrifice and adjust during tough times. His ex-wife went so far as to empty out their Joint Bank Accounts, close Credit Cards that had Darin as a co-owner, and leave him with “less than $1 in the bank.” It was only thanks to the fact that Darin was a diligent saver throughout his 20’s and 30’s that he had built up a solid balance in his retirement account at work. He also had saved into his own investment brokerage account as well as 529 plans for his kids. While of course he didn’t want to tap into them, Darin needed to use these funds during a difficult time in order to ensure his bills were getting paid and food was in the fridge.

Learning and Moving On

In an ideal world, would it have been great to have his own Emergency Fund savings account in his own name separate from his wife? Darin says “Yes.” He made it clear that even after these challenging times, he still believes in marriage and love “and all that other stuff” he says with a chuckle, “…but having some money set aside in just your own name is a smart idea nonetheless.” I agree completely.

Darin has been working in electronics for the past 2 plus years since his divorce and job loss, and he is now a manager and earning a solid income. He’s rebuilding his financial life and focuses a bunch of his time and energy on spending time with his kids and being there for them.

Americans all over the country must learn from this conversation. While it is not fun to think about, the truth is that preparing for things like losing a job must be done ahead of time. We’ve gotta be real about it.

Having conversations with your partner (yes those tough and not-fun conversations) can be “preventative medicine” for a happy marriage. Being on the same page with your partner about how you’ll react financially if things go wrong in your life is super important. It’s not just about what your goals and dreams are for the future if everything goes well. It’s also important to have a conversation about how you’ll handle tough situations as well, such as aging parents, children’s health, education expenses, and more.

Start by hearing what Darin had to say.

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Dimitry Neyshtadt ChFC has helped Americans optimize their Personal Finances since 2006 and is currently traveling 25 States in 25 Weeks across the USA. Follow along at @90DayMoneyPro for more.

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In Kansas City, Lee and her husband, Chris, are the definition of the couple that is working hard together to “do it all.” While her husband is an Accountant full-time at a firm in Downtown Kansas City, Lee balances her passion for healing and wellness with spending time raising her 2 children, now age 5 and 3.

In her childhood, Lee was always passionate about dance, gymnastics, and cheerleading. She knew that she wanted her career to incorporate these passions, so when Pilates gained popularity a while back, it felt like a great fit. Lee was introduced to Pilates to her 12 years ago, and she worked in a studio teaching Pilates Classes. She looks back on that time very fondly but says “I knew deep down that I wanted to be my own boss.”

She and Chris “loved to be DINKS” for a little while – Double Income & No Kids. They enjoyed living in the city and travelling frequently. That phase didn’t last too long.

Things started to change once the family had her first child. “It was important for me to be home with my child,” Lee told me. “But honestly, I didn’t know what it was like not to work.” We laughed at this together because she and I have both spent lots of time and energy building our professional skills and careers. I’m sure many of you reading this can relate!

“I’ve never been around anyone who doesn’t own a business,” she shared with me. Her father owned a nightclub in the 1970’s and later owned a restaurant as Lee went through adolescence. She shared that as she got older, she learned that her mother didn’t always like the business-side, and that was one of the reasons why the business ended up getting sold as her father got older.

Like many of us reading this article, the way our parents dealt with financial decisions played a role in how we think about money in our own lives. “With my husband, we’re both very open and giving,” Lee explained. “It’s life! You have to talk about it!” She shared more about how she and her husband agreed from the beginning of their relationship that communication was very important. They both wanted to be on the same page with each other’s goals and visions for the future. They’re not perfect by any means. “You’ll laugh, but it wasn’t until about two weeks ago that my husband and I finally merged calendars on our phones!”

While technology can surely make things easier, it doesn’t replace what should be there from the beginning. Talking with your partner one-on-one about important topics – like professional development, personal finances, and money – is so critical for a relationship to function optimally over the long term.

She and Chris communicated and planned together. How could Lee combine her burning desire to work hard AND help others with health and wellness AND be there for her young kids? She shared with me that she could describe her true passion as “helping people heal from the inside-out” and with that clarity she was able to move forward.

Lee set out to start her own business. With a small Personal Loan from her parents-in-law (“They wanted to get in on it!” she says,) Lee was able to start up her Health Coaching business with more confidence, backing, and support. Many folks dream of starting a business, and the planning that goes into that transition has many layers, moving parts, and obstacles to overcome.

Currently, Lee helps provide health and wellness products to clients through an online store. A self-described “ingredient freak,” Lee loves the fact that she’s in a position to proudly represent products that she and her family personally use. She has strict requirements, and not just any-old-health product passes her guidelines.

Plexus Worldwide (http://www.plexusworldwide.com/leelpetitjean) allows her to provide high value products in services in alignment with her passion, purpose, and mission, while also allowing for flexibility of schedule to be with her children and husband spending quality time together. “I’ve been a health-nut at heart for 35 years! Having 2 little boys makes me strive for a healthy lifestyle that is natural and not forced. Weather it’s Pilates, gut health, or local food – you will get my whole heart and passion!”

The business-side started slowly. A few hundred dollars per month turned into over $1,000 per month, and the sales have continued to grow. Ultimately, Lee has proven that getting started, planning ahead, staying organized, and prioritizing optimally allows for her work-life balance to fit her goals.

She and her husband continue to be on the same-page. They plan and consider next steps ahead of them in their careers, raising their children, and continuing to make smart financial decisions together for the well-being of their family, both for their todays & their tomorrows.

You can learn more about Lee by following her on Instagram @KChealthnut and finding her on Facebook and LinkedIn – Lee Petitjean. Her website is http://www.plexusworldwide.com/leelpetitjean

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